so…your only criticism of her is that she looks for shitty things? you think she’s horrible because she’s thorough when pointing out sexism?
at the same time, you admit that she makes valid arguments. and that gamer culture vilifies her for it, further proving how necessary her presence and arguments are
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaand now I’m gonna go shower and go the fuck to bed, because I always get nervous when admitting self-realization shit and immediately feel awkward and want to hide. So. Yup. Gonna go do that now in the shower.
sorry white people but if you dont support mike brown & the people of fergusons’ protests in 2014 you probably wouldnt have supported abolition in the 1800s or civil rights movements in the 1960s & having the ability to recognize something as morally justified in hindsight something that has already been accepted by the mainstream as morally justified is nice for u but on all practical levels useless to everyone else
So I think I finally figured it out. I’m pretty sure I’m a Genderqueer Pansexual.
(For some reason I’m scared to post this???)
I’m no different than I was a moment ago, how I look, how I feel, how I act, how I react to other people, what I like an don’t like, but I’m like, idk, scared of admitting I’m not a cis female???
I feel like a chick more often than not, but sometimes I seriously feel like a guy, and sometimes I feel like neither, or somewhere between… (This is hard to admit…. but I feel like I should? Like I need to, even if it doesn’t really matter to anyone but me??? Like I’m worried I’ll upset some people or something??? I guess mostly because my boyfriend follows my tumblr)
I’m cool with having a physically female body and wouldn’t want to change it, but I guess that doesn’t weigh in with my gender? Like I look at my body like a physical fact I’m ok with, that’s separate from who I see myself as, an that’s cool.
And being Pan, well I’ve been pretty damn sure of that for a pretty long time now. I can find ANYONE attractive. Dudes, ladies, lady-dudes, dude-ladies, genderless, trans, androgynous, etc etc etc (so many lovely people in this world) Dude I can be sexually or romantically attracted to a POTATO if it’s got all the right stuff going on. (Okay not really, just kidding. Being in love with inanimate objects IS actually a thing, but I don’t experience that.)
But part of my core personality is loyalty, too (I feel like I have to say that, isn’t that awful??? Even though people who know me should already know that I hope…) And I’m very much a possessive, territorial, protective person when it comes to relationships, and I’m a one person kinda relationship person.
So like since I’m in a commited happy relationship atm, does all that even matter? Yes and no.
Yes cause I like labels sometimes because they can convey info and I like self-identifying because it helps me understand myself, and No, because it’s also irrelevant in that I am the same person as a couple minutes ago, or a day, or a week, or a year ago. Just more self-aware???
I DON’T EVEN KNOW. IT’S 11:30 AND I’M SLEEPY AND NEED TO SHOWER STILL ARGH.
Thanks for listening~ (Jimmy ilu bebe, no worries, all this doesn’t mean anything different for us <3 I hope it doesn’t make you uncomfortable, if it does we can talk about it…)
Trans people are everywhere.
I don’t really understand how that is a question up for discussion on television news. I mean, even putting aside the gajillion ways that white people are privileged by, for instance, being able to think that whiteness is “normal,” studying world history from Eurocentric perspectives, and etc etc:
- Marijuana use is similar among black and white populations in the U.S., but young African Americans are more than THREE TIMES more likely to be arrested for marijuana possession or use than white Americans.
- Even after accounting for reasons like education disparity, geographical distribution, and occupation, there is a persistent wage gap: White people make are paid more than African Americans due to racial discrimination.
White privilege is a fact of every facet of American life. I realize I’m mostly preaching to the choir here, but this is not a political issue or a subject for debate. It is well-documented and irrefutable.
I couldn’t not post this
Being good to each other is so important, guys.
YELLS LOUDLY BC ARIN
The situation is just intolerable.
There have been a lot of really insightful write-ups recently. A broader perspective—and I almost cringe to say—catch-all by Molly Crabapple left me gasping for breath. This write up, by Elizabeth Sampat giving her thoughts on an industry that’s very dear to me, delivered the final blow and left me in tears.
It’s really rare that I create from a place of grief. It’s just not how I operate. But it’s largely what I have openly felt for the last few days, and reflecting on it, it’s been there for far longer.
This quote from Elizabeth’s piece— “We should have a war memorial for all of the women we have lost to this. We should lay flowers and grieve and see our reflections in stone.”— struck a very literal chord in me.
So yeah, here it is. A place just for me where I can light a candle and remember all of the wonderful people I probably will never get the chance to meet. Folks that have been driven away by these horrible fucks that have the audacity to think they know what gaming and community is about.
I have never, in my life, been ashamed to call myself a gamer. Until now. These misogynist little shitbags are a disgrace to our community.
All of us who care about gaming need to step up and save our community, while there is still something about it that’s worth saving.
RIP women like me. This is beautiful.
I refuse to be added to or thought of as a casualty though. I can keep going. But those who couldn’t or can’t, you are missed. Your voices are missed. I hope I can help carry your memory forward and continue to say “never again”.
Until the game industry/community has active channels of support for survivors of rape and sexual assault in the industry, and mechanisms to prevent developers who commit rape and sexual assault from continuing to do that, in a way that is peaceful and brings about permanent positive change, I’m gonna have a real hard time believing shit about shit.
And this is just, like, one thing I see the deeply enmeshed communities of Game Industry and Consumers of Games (note how it’s often difficult to talk about the industry without also having to assume discussion of the community of fans) needing to address.
"Saving" or whatever is nice, but fundamental structural changes…f-fundamentally change things, and that will probably feel uncomfortable.
We know what white people (hi) and men, and especially white men, are like when they’re uncomfortable. They turn into misogynist, racist, entitled little shitbags. I don’t see that changing even if everyone sent Zoe a dollar for every word of abuse she’s received (which hey we should also do, where’s the Indiegogo to help pay for this woman’s long-term emotional health, if everyone’s so damn sorry?).
The hatred of women runs wide and deep in games, it won’t end when Zoe’s not getting harassed every day, it won’t be gone when Anita’s series is done, it wasn’t gone when I left games, it didn’t disappear when Maddy Myers stopped going to public fighting games tournaments, it didn’t go away when Jade Raymond stopped being the face of the Assassin’s Creed series (these are just the names off the top of my head, writing into the little XKit reblog window right now)
…and meanwhile FYI sexual assaults happen at and around all your fave big tent-pole gamer and game industry events, and throughout the industry all the time, because misogynist little shitbags don’t just PLAY games they also MAKE them. But who wants to report on a colleague, who *doesn’t* want to sign up for this sort of experience (but coming from your coworkers, and at work events)?
(But I’m supposed to have #1reasonwhy I’m excited a woman wants to work in that industry.)
Do MRAs actually put thought into their responses or are they some sort of robot programmed to go around proving everyone right all the time?